Consider this your warning:
this isn’t going to be your typical wedding planning advice blog series.
I’m just not that type of girl.
Last week I wrote about taking back the wedding beast in this blog post. I talked about how I specialize in the meaningful, and I wanted to follow it up with a little more information about my why.
Almost two years ago, the sweetest boy I’ve ever met asked me to start forever with him, and I joyously agreed.
We didn’t tell anyone for three, glorious, all-too-short weeks. We didn’t set a date. We didn’t start a Pinterest board. And I can honestly say we didn’t discuss details. In those three weeks, we just enjoyed every moment of being engaged, and in love, and we let that meditative serenity regarding how we would be together forever wash over us.
But then the wedding machine started.
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We announced our engagement. I posted the image above on Facebook. And the questions began.
Another year, months of planning, a few breakdowns, and the realization that the wedding machine had gotten totally out of control, we decided to nix the whole ‘ big wedding’ thing and instead organized a short, intimate wedding ceremony before a delectable supper at a local boutique restaurant.
Please don’t misunderstand where I’m going with this.
Not everyone would like the kind of wedding Will and I planned, and that’s ok. Everyone is entitled to their own sense of awesome!
Additionally: there was still a lot of planning involved even for our small, winter wedding. It was made infinitely more manageable by only having 30 people there, but copious amounts of planning still happened.
On a similar note: this was not about money. Did we end up spending less than if we had a 150 person soiree? Of course, but the prime motivating factor behind our decision to downsize was always rooted in our need to focus our wedding on the vows we were taking with each other and our God. When we felt like we were getting away from that, we changed direction.
My point is: you don’t always have to play by their rules.
From dress shopping, to who to invite, to what you serve for supper, you don’t have to play by anyone’s rules.
So, this series will outline how Will and I decided to plan our wedding. It’s not a THIS IS THE ONLY WAY TO DO IT blog series. It’s simply a this is how we did it and if it helps you out then whoop whooooop! blog series.
You have a moral compass. Use it. Everything else is just gravy.
Do you (in the singular and the plural sense). And do AWESOME.
Because being awesome rocks.
xoxo
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*photo by the talented Jennifer of Warthan Farms Photography